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When Valentines Day come?s around the corner every year, I hear many people moan and groan about how there shouldn?t have to be a designated day to express love, and that such dynamics should be daily events. While the sentiment in outrage over Hallmark Holidays is valid, I find it far from realistic. Habits are hard to break but easy to materialize, and we often find ourselves engaging in relationship dynamics that we wouldn?t have even dreamed of doing during The Butterfly Stage. Here are 7 habits of highly comfortable relationships that may require some changing.
Gone are the days of stopping mid make out sesh to sneak off and dry shave your legs in the bathroom before things get too steamy. Once the line has been baited and the catch has been caught, we all let go a little bit. However, prickly legs do not feel less prickly to a man just because he?s in love, and a woman?s face will still get irritated after kissing a stubble surrounded mouth. Treat others how you want to be treated: shave, and your partner will continue to do the same.
There?s nothing sweeter than waking up to your sweetie, but the morning sex depicted in movies would not be so glamourous if the actors didn?t wake up with their makeup perfected, hair beautifully tossled, and mouth recently Listerined. While we can?t all have a hair and makeup team, sneaking off to brush your teeth before starting something in the morning is just as appreciated in a two year relationship as it was in a two week relationship.
The fool-proof flirting technique? Laugh at their jokes. While doing so was easy during The Butterfly Stage, as your relationship matures, sometimes you wish your partner would too. Soon, their ?cute habits? annoy the hell out of you, and your flirty giggles are soon replaced with sighs and eye rolls. Step back. Remember why you fell in love with your partner and allow them to have their quirks. Sometimes, people are corny, inappropriate, or just plain socially inept, but as their partner, you should work to make them feel as good as you want them to make you feel. If you have to humour them from time to time, so be it.
Before hitting the send button to a person you?re newly dating, one must be sure that they have checked over their text, made sure it?s cute but not too needy, and funny but not too sarcastic. Months or years later, couples rarely use emoticons in their texts, and their facebook walls have not been bombarded with PDA articles, pictures and quotes. While an over advertised love via social media or texting is over the top and annoying, take the time to remember how you used to feel every time your partner texted you before you became official. Relive those moments, and send those sweet nothings.
Happy 1 week anniversary! Here?s a mixed CD and mushy card.
Happy 8 month anniversary! Lets do a movie and dinner, on me.
Oh, it?s been 3 years hey? Wanna split a $5 footlong?
While the evolution of your relationship may not be quite as depressing as the above example, I do find it sad how rarely couples celebrate those small moments the longer they are together. I?m not suggesting you throw a party for you 65th week anniversary, but the acknowledgement of love, and displaying gratitude for having your partner in your life should not get old. Even a kiss, cute text, or surprise in bed is a nice way of saying ? I love being in love with you.?
Whether for your partner or meeting their friends and family, didn?t you used to stress out over finding that perfect outfit? Two years in, my perfect outfit when going to my boyfriends house is sweatpants and no makeup. While I know he loves me no matter what I look like, and that his parents could care less if I dress up for Taco Tuesday at their house, I still recognize that I definitely used to try harder when we were first dating. My suggestion is to find the balance between being comfortable and being considerate. Not only do you feel good when you look good, but your partner often responds well, which only further boosts your ego and the chemistry between you two.
Unless you are an old married couple, don?t act like an old married couple! Long term couples could use less practicality. Like any of the items in this list, take the time to remember the crazy things you used to do when you first began dating. How often do you remember feeling really well rested for work? In contrast, how often do you remember special dates and unique experiences with you partner? While you don?t need to break the bank or do anything too unruley, make a weekly effort to deviate from norms. It isn?t just girls who want to have fun, it?s everyone. Predictability and schedules are nice in doses, but spontaneity is the spice of life. Spice things up!
Source: http://www.straightuplove.com/hump-day-hot-list-the-7-habits-of-highly-comfortable-couples/
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